How to Talk to Your Teen About Safe Driving

Mother and daughter at home having a talk at home

There are plenty of difficult topics to talk about with your children, but perhaps the one that strikes terror in many parents is the talk that precedes handing over the keys to the family car. Yes, that talk. We may joke about it but talking to teens about safe driving is one of the critical chats that parents need to get right, for the safety of their child and anyone else that’s on the road while they’re behind the wheel.

How can you help your young adult become a safer driver? Here are five tips to help you talk to your child about safe driving:

  1. Be confident. Know that you can positively influence your young driver’s behavior behind the wheel.
  2. Set a good example. Be a safe driver yourself (if you are not already). Studies show that young drivers are influenced by the positive role modeling of their parents’ responsible driving behaviors.3
  3. Know the facts about teen driving. Some teens increase their already high collision risk by speeding, drinking, driving at night, having peers as passengers and driving distracted. Likely, your state has Graduated Driver Licensing laws to help address the prevalence of risky behaviors among new drivers. Learn about these laws and resolve to enforce them.
  4. Be a great coach. Stay calm and set clear expectations and consequences regarding dangerous driving behaviors mentioned above.  Be encouraging. Kids, including adolescents, respond best to positive reinforcement.4
  5. Stay involved. Monitor your teen’s behavior behind the wheel – even after your teen obtains his or her license. Continue to coach them about how to drive safely. It takes time, experience, judgment and skill to learn how to drive safely. You may want to consider installing a monitoring device that provides data on driving behaviors that need improvement. And be realistic: you will likely need to have multiple talks with your child about safe driving.

Once you’ve had the talk, it’ll be important to regularly reinforce the messaging you’ve offered your teen. Highlight the following:

  • Buckle up.
  • Don’t use a cell phone while driving.
  • Don’t speed.
  • Observe passenger limits for your vehicle.
  • Don’t drive under the influence of alcohol.

Driver’s education classes can’t teach your kids everything. While it can help to instill the rules of the road, and provide some basic driving experience, driver’s education training is but one component in helping your young adult prepare to get behind the wheel. As a parent, it’s essential that you take a proactive role in keeping your teen driver safe and injury free. Have the talk.